Cleverly due to launch, right before the long awaited sequel "Sex and the City 2," is The Carrie Diaries, which takes readers through the hallways of Carrie Bradshaw's high school years. I must say, I'm not overly excited to debunk the "who" and "what" that made Carrie who she was portrayed to be on the show. (Does this sentence seem awkward to you? I read it three times and it doesn't sound right.) There's something wonderful about the fact that in a world where the need to know everything is incessant, the viewers know barely anything about the cast's relationship with parents, siblings or high school friends. We are left to piece together the reason and circumstance as to why the characters are the way they are and how four seemingly different women, grew to become best friends. We don't know what drove Miranda to become a lawyer, Charlotte to be interested in Art, Samantha in Public Relations and Carrie a writer. We were given glimpses as to where these women may have evolved from in a few memorable episodes (Miranda's mother dying, Carrie's non-existent relationship with her father,) however the allure of the show is that they focus on mostly the present, while reflecting on past mistakes; careful to never be too specific or revealing. Unlike today, where we feel the need to label someone as our "best friend or BFF", you never really know which of the four ladies are closest. (I personally feel it's Carrie and Miranda.) In some episodes, we are left to guess. We don't even know the details of how these friends first met, but when small hints seep out during the episodes, you find yourself glued to the tube.
See below scenes and let me know if it affected you the way it did me:
You find out when Miranda's mother passed away, that Miranda, always strong and cynical, really just felt like she never fit in with her family as a single career woman. You find out in an episode where Carrie gets a job writing for Vogue, that she probably made wrong choices in men all her life due to the lack of a father figure. You find out when Mr. Big leaves Carrie at the alter, that Charlotte really isn't so meek and mild and I still get chills when I see the scene of her enraged, because that is exactly how you would feel, or would want your "BFF" to react if that same situation happened to you.
My husband often says to me that I'm fooling myself if I think that my past doesn't shape who I am today. "How could it not?" he ponders. Every mistake, hurt, triumph, disappointment, reverie, risk, experience and memory shape you to be who you are and even when you would like to believe you've grown up and overcome obstacles, when you least expect it, sometimes that scared little girl sneaks up on you.
I'm a die-hard Sex and the City fan, so I know I'll probably buy the book. I'm just not sure I want to read it. Sometimes, the mystery and fantasy is what makes people attractive in the first place. If you think about a new friend or the process of dating, there is much more allure in the initial stages as you really don't know that much about these people. It's much more intriguing when you unravel the layers over time.
The interesting thing about life is that we all were born as innocent children who moved through the stages of life as it was dealt to us. I think it's safe to say that no mortal is spared some sort of pain and challenging situations in their life's span. When you are getting to know someone, it's important (albeit sometimes difficult) to make no judgements based on their current flaws because, well, everyone in the present also has come from a past that could contribute to being wonderful, angry, distrusting, loyal, aloof or scared.
Me? I don't think there's much mystery or allure about me. I am a private and shy person by nature yet ironically write my most personal thoughts on a public forum and am fortunate that people are reading and enjoying it. But...would you really want to buy my book about how I got here?