I was in Chapters the other day and happened to find a free chair. I finished getting comfy, assumed position and started to read. I happened to glance up in front of me and see the sequel to Kelly Cutrone's book "If you have to cry, go outside." Similar to the first book, the title "Normal gets you nowhere" grabbed my attention hook, line and sinker.
Do you believe in signs? If so, you probably have found yourself in this position several times a day. The position of being open-minded enough to receive messages from the universe. Do you ever find yourself sinking deep into reverie and thought and when you snap out of it, you see a bumper sticker in front of you that speaks to the exact thing you were just day dreaming of? Or likewise, a song that seems to jump out of the speakers and belt out a solo performance, specifically dedicated to you and the emotional place you reside at that very moment?
I put aside the several wedding photography books I had so carefully selected and delved into Kelly's gritty and frank way of speaking. She discussed everything from relationships to religion to sex to business in such a candid and honest way, it was hard to cringe at the several strategically placed "F" bombs. ( Example: Chapter 2: The Kella-Sutra: If you're not getting fucked by midnight, go home. ) See what I mean? Frankly speaking and honest.
One of my favourite excerpts:
"Let's be honest. Most of the time when we fall in love with someone, it's not because the wider world has given us an indication that their dick should be inside of us. Energy has nothing to do with what's practical or aesthetic; it has nothing to do with his stats, his bank account, or how he looks on paper. It is not the same as attracted to or makes sense. Instead, it comes directly from the source. Most of the time when you meet someone, you're either in or you're out. Does he make you want to do crazy things? If he doesn't, and you're just trying to figure out how to keep him happy or how to leave by noon the next day, you're a liar, not a lover, and I'm sorry to be the one to tell you that if you continue this relationship, you're going to need a lawyer.
If you have ever had the great privilege of crying when you make love with someone, then you will understand what it's like to be a God, an Angel and a Human Being all at the same time."
Pick up the book. It's worth the read.